Girl, Know Your Self Worth!

Wayne Dyer once quoted, “Self-worth comes from one thing- thinking that you are worthy.” As the Glow Up, Sis teens, we touched on the topic of love in February with great insights from our mentors and we discussed the importance of self-love.  

The second greatest commandment that Jesus highlights in the book of Matthew is ‘Loving thy neighbour as you love yourself,’ To break it down, it’s merely impossible to love someone at maximum capacity if you are incapable of loving yourself even at the bare minimum. Self-love is crucial, but self-worth is just as important because you can’t love yourself without knowing your worth. 

I speak for all my glow up teen girlies when I say that sometimes finding your self-worth in a society where others are constantly losing theirs can be a struggle. It’s nothing we can’t handle... but it’s something we can’t ignore. It’s something we can’t ignore because we pretty much pay attention to it almost every day on social media. However, social media isn’t the biggest issue but a lot of us are pinning it to be the cause of lack of self-esteem, the feeling of intimidation and even the lack of motivation. The problem starts when you bring comparison into the frame, but not everyone likes to accept that since it’s never really in the big picture. 

Comparison is your biggest enemy. The minute you start comparing yourself to someone else, you lose all confidence boost to push yourself to greatness- I'm not attacking... I’m just stating a truth a lot of us don’t like to hear. We see tons of people on the media celebrating their wins and achievements, whether they are our age mates or not and we look back at the ‘little’ we have achieved. Because we constantly complain about the things we don’t have, we never take the time to celebrate what we do have and what we have achieved so far. 

One of my all-time favourite artists once said, ‘You will never be happy until you love yours.’ That line is self-explanatory if you ask me. Until you start to appreciate yourself, your accomplishments and your achievements, you will never find satisfaction in your wins, period. God had a plan for you before He formed you in that womb, He still has that same plan for you, and He will carry you through it. So, if your life doesn’t seem to be moving at the same pace of that one person’s, it’s because it’s not meant to. God designed your steps accordingly and even though they may be slower than what you intended, He is doing it for a reason- just trust His process, not yours. 

The more we start to see and value ourselves the way that our Maker does, the more we start to appreciate our worth and love ourselves- and if I’m not mistaken, I believe that’s what we need to go from glory to glory. Let’s not measure our self-worth by the things we do, but by what we are and who we are- that way we can value ourselves when we have everything and even when we don’t have it all. Whenever you feel discouraged or whenever you feel worthless, open His Word and God will remind you of how special you are in times when you can’t remind yourself. He will always show up for you even when you can’t show up for yourself because that’s just the God He is- I don’t like to brag but He is pretty amazing. 

In conclusion, we are all in different chapters of our lives, we’re all in different seasons and that’s how it’s meant to be. Don’t rush yourself to greatness if it’s not your time, otherwise you may never experience your wins to the fullest. Life is a race and we’re all in different lanes... but the destination is the same and we’re all in this together. So, with that being said, don’t let the enemy of comparison make you lose sight of who you are, and the greatness God destined you to achieve- and remember... love yours because there’s no such thing as a life that’s better than yours.

Selah.